I had a blond over, I'll call her JJ, and we talked for hours about life, religion and dating. This cutie got an online dating account and went to close to 50 dates and they were all the same. Dinner, interview like questions, blah blah blah. No I didn't meet her online. She's my new neighbor. JJ's a 7 to me but she was a blond so to me there are in a different category. Damn blond fetishes. Damn Asians liking blonds:) It's sad to see the guys all fucking up and being so damn pussy whooped. I was there. I understand the poor bastards. Then again, if we didn't have so much whooped dudes, it wouldn't be this easy to hook up with girls.
JJ did meet couple that she hooked up with for a short relationship but didn't work out in the end. I told her, I'm not looking to get into a relationship and that I have too much going on in my life and there's no room for it. She came off to me as being too damn innocent but towards the end, as it was getting late, she started throwing lines like "you're too innocent for me" and "Of course I have sexual needs". Thank goodness.
If you read every damn profile of what a woman wants, it's the same concept but with different wording. Many guys would ask them, how can it be possible that you want this but you want that. I'm going to break it down to you fellas. Girls wants a gentleman but wants to be mentally stimulated. They want to feel secured and that we are 'MEN' not wussies. Our job is to make them laugh, cry, get upset, feel happy and sad plus all the emotions that us humans enjoy. Whether it's a downer or an upper, we humans are the way we are due to the emotions that we go through.
Get out of the box. Don't be afraid to get rejected. Remember, they are rejecting your approach and the way you represent yourself but not you as a person. You can always work on improving your persona. No matter how many times you approach a woman, it will always make you feel nervous. That will never ever go away. I have approached many woman within this past 3 months and I still tend to hold back a bit.
The answer to handling your fear to accept that you have the fear and that it's just the way it is so go on and do something about it you damn wuss:)
Oh, by the way, I sent JJ home after we talked. I'm not trying to fuck her the first night we hang out. She's sensitive and very emotional so I have to be careful not to create any neighbor drama. She's fun. She tickled me, played with me and opened up to me. We'll be hanging out more.
So Saturday rolls around and me and 3 other boys, including Corrida head to the clubs up in North County. We have two different groups of friends that'll meet us later at another location, coincidently, all in the same place. We head to Yogis and see that there are a good number of girls there. We were just warming up so we just drank 1 drink and headed out to the other club where all our acquaintances were at.
I don't know why, I didn't approach any girls at Yogis. There were alot of cute girls. Some that I think would be and extraordinary challenges to me. Maybe because it was too early. There is no reason, I just felt uncomfortable approaching. Everybody was just rolling in, everybody was white (we were 1 Asian guy and 3 mexican dudes) and nobody was dancing so the vibe was not that great to begin with. Excuses. Lets move on.
We get to our second spot and I head to the bar to get my boys a drink. A girl was next to me and I said something and she moved back to her boyfriend, which was right behind me. I made small talks with the guy and he was cool. After all, he was with 3 other girls. I waited for my bartender for a minute and then asked this other girl next to me if that (pointed across the room) was an extra room or a reflection. She said it was a reflection and started dancing all silly to show herself in the mirror. Silly.
I always start with small talks to get the engine started.
As I'm still waiting for the bartender, across the bar were two decent looking girls. One of them caught my eyes and it was a staring contest. She was staring so damn hard but after 10 seconds of solid staring she looked away and I noticed her talking to her friend about me. Corrida noticed this.
We got our drinks and went to chill with our other group. The second group were my neighbor JJ's group. JJ came by looking for me and we started chit chatting. I joked with her, teased her she should learn how to dance and that she needs something to give to the table, kino escalated her, met her friends and then gave her a quick peck on the lips before she went away.
She later told me she was talking about me to her friends, telling them that I was her hot Asian neighbor. That's how I roll:)
The girl I stared down earlier, had her group of friends nearby so we all started talking to them. They were celebrating this short Asian girls birthday. The girl I stared down seems to be used to getting attention so I ignored her. I wasn't in the mood to get her so I backed down. My friend was hooking me up with a drink and the birthday girl yelled out that she wanted one also. My friend said that she didn't even have to say anything and that he'll get her one since it's her birthday.
Me: "I would not buy you a drink that easily."
Asian girl: "Why, you only buy drinks for hot girls?"
Me: "Beauties got nothing to do with it, it's if we can have a connection. Give me couple things you do that you are proud about?"
Asian girl: "blah blah blah."
Her friend tapped me on my arm and told me that I was really fun. They got up to dance and the girl I was ignoring and that stared me down grabbed me. The asian girl grabbed me as well, so I pulled away and tagged along. We danced a bit and seemed like the asian girl and her friend was battling to get my attention. This can get uncomfortable between the two girls so I got off the dance floor. I didn't feel like dancing.
The whole night, I never got any of their names. If you're not going to close them, then getting there name is just a waste of breath to me and boring. I forget people names instantly as they tell me anyways.
Since our group of friends were leaving, we left the place also and went to Denny's for some late night breakfast. There was a girl that was at the club that like my friend, Polo, and Polo had liked her for the longest of time but dated her older sister in the past so had to keep it cool. It was 2am and Polo gets a text message saying, "I made it home safely. I'm going to sleep. Good night." We all sat there wondering what would be a good response instead of the typical, 'you too and good night bullshit'.
Text messaging correctly is important. I fuckin lost a girl's interest, a 10 by they way, with one damn message! Now it's going to take extra effort to get that back!
Corrida said to write, "I'll be home soon honey. Haha." I thought it was clever and cocky. I'm sure she got a kick out of that one. Corrida told us that the staring girl asked for his name and after he told her she quickly lost interest. Lesson learned. With a boring questions like that, always come up with something cocky and funny.
Lesson leaned.
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