Dating.

Let me tell you what the heck the United States did to us American men and women. First off, majority of the girls in other countries in Europe, Asia and even the North Pole (santa's elves) all love American men because we generally put women up in the pedestal. Women are treated pretty badly compared to America over there. Guys are more ruthless and some countries, it's legal to beat your wife. Crazy, I know. So you will always hear when your friends travel to other countries, girls flock to their presence once they find out that they're Americans. Of course them wanting to get a visa in some cases don't hurt either. The way those non American women treat their men is amazing. They will worship you practically.

In America, it's not the girls fault that most of them has to act like a bitch to you. It's not their fault that they will test you and stop calling you and ignore your phone calls after you fail the test. It's our fault. Women have so much power that they are about to become the president of the United States (Hillary Clinton) and rule over us men. We did this. Go to a club and sit back and watch what happens. This is so damn typical. A guy goes over to the girl and flocks all over them, offers to buy them drinks instantly and tries to hang around them like they got no other life. It looks pathetic and it's common. I was there man. I was that nasty guy. It's the way our mom's raised us. Ask a hot girl what they're used to at clubs and bars. They are used to hundreds of guys doing the same thing to get their attention and all because they are physically attractive. Hot women are way too experienced in social behavior with male encounter. So they have to be defensive, they have to be selective and yes, they have to be bitchy just to get the point across.

Within last few months, I've been on many dates (all 9's and 10's) and here is what works best from trial and error.

Let me start with the most important rule of dating. You have to create your own frame. You are the one in charge and whatever reality that you want to live is what needs to happen. Don't ask her, tell her. Don't wait for permission, give it. Don't find out what she wants to do, you just pick it and set it.

Quit being so damn whimpy and needy and be a man. A 'man' can only be defined by a woman and being a 'woman' can only be defined by a man or else the definition will be bias if defined by the same sex. Woman wants a confident, a bit cocky in a funny way (David Deangleo), higher status, who can give them multiple emotional feelings from jealousy to surprised to sadness to happiness, who can seduce them and who can be 'normal' around them. How do we act in front of our homies and sisters. We tease them. We are cool with them. If I call them and they don't pick up it's no big deal. If i make plans with them and it doesn't fall through, it's no big deal, we'll do it next time. Notice when you're with a hot girl, you tend to get really nice and submissive and try to impress the girl by making sure you don't offend them and asking them how they feel. You try to show off how rich you are or the things that you do. Most guys don't act like themselves. This will never work if you're looking for the girl that you want to be with.

I let them know that we are hanging out and never mention that we're 'dating'. Always let them understand that we're hanging out as friends and nothing more. If something romantic comes out of it than great but I am not expecting it.

Don't ever invite yourself in to the girls home no matter what. I have female friends who constantly complain about this and the shit they gotta do to try to give them the hint to leave is so damn funny.

At first, tell them to meet you at your place. Invite them inside for a second so you can 'grab your stuff'. This is so that they become familiar with your home so that maybe later they won't feel so unsure about coming over since they already came over once. (Deangelo's idea)

Be cocky and funny. Tell them things like, you guys are now married and should plan a trip to an exotic country and shock the beach on goers by you two making out wearing a nun and a priest outfit. Stories like this implies that you are sexually interested in her but without actually telling her. It's also funny and girls love this kid of interactions way more than simple questions and answer sessions.

Push Pull. Hold her hands than pull away and let her know she's being way too pushy. Put your arms around her than slightly push her away when ever you feel that she is getting into it. Girls are like cats. You give them a little bit of that string than pull it away and you will see the cat going crazy and want it more and chase that string. Give her the whole ball of yarn and she'll play with it for a second and walk away. Put the cat on your lap and she will want to jump away soon but push her away and she will want to come after your lap and affection. Us guys, we're dogs. Just give us a bone and we're happy.

Go to multiple venues so that it's like going on multiple dates. Take her to a local concert but on the way stop by to get something to munch on real fast. Get a drink at a local bar first. Stop by a nice area to walk around, arm in arm and chat for couple of minutes. She will feel more comfortable with you this way.

At the end of the date, invite her over to your place so you can show her some photos, video, the book you talked about. However, let her know, you will need to kick her out because you have to wake up early tomorrow for work so she can only stay couple of minutes.

Do not be afraid to touch her. 'Kino escalate', thank you Mystery.

Here's my theory. If you want to keep her as a friend and want to have a friendly relationship with her after the sex is over than don't do anything more than kissing that night. You need to build strong comfort. If you want to just fuck than move on and that's a whole different session of education. Never tell them you want to be with them for the long run if that's not your plan. Girls will get hurt and it's fucked up to emotionally hurt them like that. When they finally give in, girls put their emotions into it. They will be cool with the fact that you're only looking for some fun and not interested in a serious relationship. Women need sex too you know.

Enough for now.

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