Falling in Love

Falling in Love. No I'm not in love but wouldn't this eventually happen after meeting and dating so many great women? Once you start the habit of understanding women's psychology, knowing how to talk to them and collecting numbers, beautiful girls will evolve around you. Other girls can even sense that from you too?

Some girls are so damn attractive that it still becomes difficult to talk without having to be so nervous. They never stop testing you. I love to hang out and talk about love and relationships with my good friend Breezy. She's exotic (half white and half asian), a massage therapist, an entrepreneur and an exotic dancer who recently was in Hollywood shooting for playboy. We go out together sometimes and believe me, having a girl like her makes other girls open up easily and their defense goes down instantly. This makes it easier to get to know a girl, not that I have a problem without her but still, it's different and fun.

I feel lucky. I go to her anytime I feel stressed and she will give me a professional massage even if it's midnight on a weekday! I learn alot from her experiences with men. She has dated many rich guys, no she's not a gold digger, because of her status. She recently told me about this one millionaire who bought her a volvo car because he was so into her. He eventually became a stalker and freaked her out. Yes, money alone cannot help you get the girl to fall in love with you.

This week was fun. I went on a lunch date with my 10 (Mel), 3 dates with 3 different beautiful girls, 1 booty call, and a 2 birthday parties. One of the girl is 18 years old and the other was 19. I know, pretty damn young but they are so damn pretty. One was a blond with big boobs and the other was a brunette, taller, thinner and with bigger boobs. Going on a date with a 18 year old is no different than going with a 29 year old. It's just that the older the girl is, the less games she will play.

Third one was Cha, the one that I like. I got to meet Cha's parents since I went her mom's birthday party this week. I don't write the girl's full name, just the first 3 letters. Her parents were so damn cool and fun. They loved me. The father was a entrepreneur and a millionaire and we talked business most of the time. This topic fascinates me since I too am a entrepreneur. I have two small business running and have two more being built as we speak. It's easy to start having emotions with your date when you get along so well with their parents. This emotion is common. I'm sure you experienced it too.

I also got a phone number of a cute short haired brunette at my gym. She kinda resembles Angelina Jolie without that sex appeal and skinnier. I see her at my gym so I'm not going to push this one. I'm going to take this for a long slow ride. I don't want to make going to the gym awkward for anybody. I simply went up to her and said 'I just wanted to meet you since I keep seeing you around. What's your name?". They just want to be talked to. Girls are more frustrated with guys looking as if they're interested, staring all the time and not saying hi. She works as a graphic designer at a candle company so I asked her to hook me up with a candle with a smell that sets a relaxing mood since I'm so busy and need something to relax sometimes. She said she'll hook it up. After I got dressed, I walked straight to her while she was in the treadmill and with everyone looking and asked for her phone number sp we can coordinate our candle exchange. She complimented my iPhone and gave me her number.

I called her later in the week and left a message saying to call me 'because i have something quick that i needed to ask her'. She never called back and later in the week she told me at the gym that it was essential that I leave my phone number next time so she can call back. Duh! I told her I my friends were performing in a band and that I wanted her to come kick it with us. She said she'll be down whenever there is a next time.

One of my business is that I'm a photographer for wedding, portraits, models and most recently bands. I made friends with a local rock producer here in san diego and he's got 20 some bands under him. He loves my work and uses me to photograph most of his bands. Being a photographer has it's perks. Especially with the ladies since so many girls ask me to take sexy photos of them.

I find out that one girl I took out couple weeks ago is in porn and the stripper girl I got the phone number from is also another porn actress. I was so shocked. 2 girls I picked up were in porn! I kissed close one but didn't bother to follow up on a date because I just didn't feel like it. Now I feel like it:) It was a same porn company so I was able to see them both while I was surfing that site. No, I don't pay for a porn membership. I'm too cheap for that. I have a friend who works at that company so he gave me a free membership:) It is such a turn on to find that out. I am going to take the one of them out again. I found out through myspace that the other one is married with a kid so I'll stay away from that. Yes, I am picky:) You can too when you have the options.

My friends would always say that the reason that they don't talk to all kinds of girls at bars and parties is that they're picky. I always tell them that how can you be picky when you don't have the options to be picky from. It's a self defense mechanism from being rejected. Have a handful of girls that you date and then you can be picky.

Saturday night, I drop the 19 year old off from a dinner date and go to a birthday party to meet with my friends. I'm thinking maybe later I will take her out again since she loved hanging out with me but this next couple of weeks is going to be busy since I have vegas and Costa Rica for a business trip. Hotels and plane tickets all paid for. Fuck, I can't wait to go there and sarge my ass off.

My two friends got alot to offer but just don't talk to girls. They want to, they even know 'the game' but still don't have the guts to go say hi. They even used to be on top of their games when they were younger but now at the age of 30, they have become insecure a bit. I try to push them but they just stand there and make excuses. I'll keep pushing. That's what friends are for.

So I walk up to this two girls and simply ask them to come over to have a conversation with us. They were more than happy to come and say hi.

Bottom line, especially at parties, we are all there to meet people. Most guys just stand around expecting something to happen. You don't even have to have an opener at parties. Guards are usually down since it's at someone's home and everybody is usually a friend or a friend of a friend.

My friend asks the girls if they wanted a drink and he took off to get them. I tell the girls that I don't get girls drinks and that I get the girls to go get me drinks. I say this in a cocky funny way. They both attack me in a flirty pissed way. I then tell the cuter one that she wouldn't be able to handle a guy like me. Oh, she loved that challenge.

We all love the challenge. So quit being so damn pussy whooped and give them what they want, a challenge. You are the prize. Understand why you have such high values and you need to qualify women to get your attention. Don't tell her about your accomplishments and status trying to prove to them. Share it to them later but until then have them qualify to you why they are good enough to be with you. Have a strong identity and belief. During conversation, if you disagree than disagree with confidence. Don't agree to them just to try to make them feel like you are in the same page. I know all this because I was in that chump shoe. I know exactly what most chumps do and the reason why it's so hard to get the girl that you want. It's good to have scripted lines but it's also great to have a strong frame. Scripted lines help alot but don't try to rely them for the whole conversation or you'll be stuck. Have a strong frame, meaning that it's what you make of it. Small example would be that if you tell a group of people that the party is getting boring and you say it with such believe than they all start to think that. Same concept when meeting girls. When you go talk to a girl with a frame that she is the one that's trying to get in your pants and not the other way around and you show that with a strong body language and tone, she will believe that it is true. 'Framing' is the most powerful psychological tool in my opinion.

After throwing that challenge, the blond was on me all night. She would even throw glances at me when talking to other guys. I threw a middle finger at her when she looked. I thought it was flirty. She's one of the girl that lived in the house where the party was held. Later when I told her I was leaving, she throws me a soft punch on my shoulder and gives me a hug bye. She's cute but I'm seeing people who are hotter and I don't want anymore in my plate right now so I didn't bother with the number. I'll be seeing her around since we roll out with her new roommate from time to time.

Another blond girl keeps looking across the way. I overhear them getting ready to leave. I walk up to the 3 girls and start a conversation. One of the girl was really fat and unattractive but I treated her exactly the same way with the other two cutie. Let them understand that you aren't attracted to the cute one just yet. I cut it short and talk a bit more to the cute one and leave them. I talk and just walk away many times just to make sure that I don't have the fear of rejection and have the habit to socialize.

I've got a date with the 18 year old again this week and I'm off to Las Vegas friday afternoon til sunday evening. I have never been there. I am going to talk to every cute girl there and throw all the games that I have. I can't wait. I'm also going with a crazy group who loves to party and get down. One couple loves to fuck in front of us and that's an entertainment on it's own. I'll keep you guys posted.