Thursday of being the man.

I started thursday by shooting a wedding in Los Angeles. Yes, I also photograph wedding as my side business. Anyways, I invited Candy to be my assistant for the wedding. This girl is the bomb. She is beautiful, smart and have a lot to offer. We connected really way during the drive to and from Los Angeles. I don't think I'm going to pursue this one too hard though. I don't want to ruin a good friendship like this. At the same time I do want to get with her so I need to figure out a way to make sure I don't lose the friendship if the sex happens and than stops. We'll see.

After I dropped her off, I went to a small, country like karaoke bar with my partner in crime, Mafia. I thought we were going to just chill, sing and drink some beers but it became an interesting night after all. As we got our beer and sat down, out of 10 people in the whole bar, I noticed two cute blond girls next to us, and another blond bartender that was off the clock. I was way too dressed for this place since I came straight from a wedding but it felt good. One of the girl sang first and I gave her a high five as she came down the stage.

Something about high fives that works so damn well to get things rolling. It's a way to create a connection without giving a predator like feeling.

Mafia and I went out to smoke and the two blonds came out within seconds so I asked for a lighter. I have a lighter but its an easy way to start a conversation by asking for one or offering one. We all talked and laughed.

Laughing is the key. If you can get a girl to laugh, she will drop her defense and open up to you more.

We went back in and I went up to sing a song. I won the girls over with my karaoke skills:) and told them they should throw me their panties next time. After 10 minutes of bullshitting around the bar, we went back out and made friends with a huge Samoan, Gabe and the blond bartender. I asked her about her tattoo and she showed us the rest on her chest and her back. No we didn't see her boobs. Conversation went well and she even told her friend how I backed her up when a creep was trying to talk to her. The bartender told us how couple months back, a guy punched her and slapped her friend outside of the bar because she didn't want to give him her number. Crazy or what? Mafia than came up with some funny ass jokes. "Did you go back in the bar and sing 'Hit me baby one more time?" and also "You did fall for him right?" Mafia was coming out with jokes left and right and we were just laughing hysterically. We went back in and Mafia and I sang one more song and decided to head out. I gave the two girl, Brittany and Shelley my Iphone to put their phone numbers in and told them I will contact them the next time we come to the karoke bar. It was a fun night.

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Friday night out with main man 'Mafia'.

Friday night comes along and I want to go out so I call my boy Mafia and wait for him to show up at a little Karaoke spot. I am used to Asian karaoke joints since us Asians originated this drunk singing but from time to time I have to venture to American karaoke bars just to spice things up. Believe me, it has a total different atmosphere. As soon as we walk in, a girl walks right up to me and starts dancing with me, grabbing my hands all crazy. She was drunk and was with 5 other girls and were having good times e so I entertained her, ask her friends to control her (with a smile) and let her go after a minute of dancing. This is good. Mafia and I felt out of place a bit, being the only Asians in the bar but felt instantly comfortable thanks to the happy dancing girl. There were two cute girls within the group and after talking to some of them, found out they were daughters to two different woman in the group. I thought that was cool to be partying with your moms and the moms weren't that bad either. We made sure that we talked to everybody and sarge as much as we can. I think you should always talk to everybody. It helps keep your energy level consistent. I had a blond girl eying me so I eyed her back. When you catch a girls stare, you make sure that you stare at her back and don't look away. Make sure she looks away and always have a confident expression. The blond finally came up to my little group (Mafia and I were already talking to a girl) and asked if she can have a cigarette. She claimed she didn't really smoke but she thought she'll try that night anyways. A big sign that she was interested. I don't know why I didn't do anything to really pursue her but I just laid back and talked to her a little bit. I'm not out there to get all the girls that are interested in me, just the one's that I'm interested in. We walk back in and Mafia goes to the dancing girl and dances with her all over the place. He's been on his A game the whole night and wasn't slowing down. After a mingling with just about everyone at the bar we left to meet up with a girl that I'm interested in at another bar.

Last month, I met this girl, Bree, at a park when I was playing with my two year old boy. Yes I am a single father:) Group of three girls walked by and the cute one smiled at me. 10 minutes later I see them again so this time i said something like 'are you guys following us?'. We chatted, they loved my little man and than i asked for the cute girls phone number.

Back to the bar scene, we walk in and instantly see one of our friends so that again made me feel comfortable of the new bar that we just entered. We got ourselves a drink first (beautiful - the name of the drink) and then started walking around. Just because I am there to meet a girl doesn't mean I am going to go straight to her. Remember, you're a man and you should act like one, unlike some pussies that I see out there all attached and won't let them go anywhere. Than again, we men are all like dogs and that's what dog's do. Fight those urges damn it:) I cross her path, tell her thanks for inviting me and since she was walking with her girlfriends I told her I'll catch her later. We go to the back, the smoking area and Mafia opens up a 3 set. It's an opener that really happened to a friend of mine.

Opener: "Excue me guys? Can i ask you guys a quick questions. I need a woman's perspective in this. My friend recently went on a date and had a great time. She even told him she was going to call him the next day. Well, next day she doens't call so he calls her, and leaves a message. After an hour later he calls again and once again gets the answering message leaving a second message. Is this a bad sign?"

He gets a great response and one of the girl gives him a huge IOI. After entertaining the group for 5 minutes, the third girl blurts out that we got all this moves from the pick up artist show from VH1. We acted like we didn't know what she was talking about. She even called us a master pick up artist but I didn't like her vibe so I told Mafia that we need to go find our friend so we took off. We caught up to my girl and she introduced to her friends. They were four of them and they were all really cute. They were actually the cutest girls we've seen all night so far. They were also cool. I told Bree i was going to buy her a drink since she was empty handed. Mafia stopped me in front of them and asked why I was buying her a drink, she didn't even prove herself to be even worthy. Haha, I loved it.

Bree's girlfriend: "He's being a gentleman buying her a drink, what's wrong with you!"
Mafia: "I'm just saying I'm looking at my boy's best interests. He doesn't normally buy anyone drinks. She needs to show him why she's worth the drink.

I just stood there and let them have a friendly argument a bit and proceeded to the bar for that drink. I don't buy girls drinks, it's just that I told her I was going to get her a drink couple days ago over text messages because she told me how broke she was and she was standing there all cute without a drink. I gotta give in sometimes.

While I was in line, Mafia made her give him 3 qualifications. Good man. I gave my girl the drink and walked away for a bit with Mafia. Mafia had the right mindset the whole night. His goal was to create his own frame. The world basically revolved around him and he created whatever he wanted. It worked great for him the whole night. We walked around a bit, it was close to closing so we headed back to their girls, danced with them for a bit and kissed her bye as one of their friend was wanting to go home pretty badly. The night went pretty well. We talked to so many different kinds of people. Sarging with Mafia is always fun.

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A little about me.

My alias name is Logan. So I'm a dork. I got that name from Wolverine comic book. My favorite character only because he don't give a fuck. Anyways, all my life, I have always been surrounded by girls. I grew up in a beautiful island of Guam. For all you people who have no idea what Guam is, it's a US territory located between Japan and Hawaii. It is small and we all kind of know each other with a population of 150k people. I'm in San Diego, California now but man do I miss the island.

Back to my life, I had my first crush when I was 5 and had a girl kiss me when I was 8. I had female friends til I was in highschool than bam, nerdome struck me so fast as my acne all over my face causing me to get low self esteem thus pushing all the girls away from my life.

Remember when you were just hitting puberty and all you wanted to do was fuck? I would've fucked a old whore from bangkok if I had the money when i was 13. I felt so envious of my friends who were having sex at such a young age. I even was in love with a girl name Darcy only because she had big boobs!

I finally broke out of comic books and lonely jerks of a life when i met my best friend at the age of 16. He used a nickname Romeo and he was a cool cat from Japan. He was a natural. Being a good looking guy didn't hurt either. Girls would come around and throw there phone numbers at him. We both had many things in common such as martial arts (I have two black belts by the way, one in tae kwon do and 1 in tang soo do), partying and especially the love of girls. He slowly showed me the way to righteousness.

I am now in my late twenties and have been through all kinds of girls. Some have even told me that I can get any girls that I wanted and some have told me that I was a creep. 'Creep' is the term girls use to explain what a guy who are pussy whooped and easy to control. Don't you find it hard sometimes when a hot girl seems all interested in you and all you want to do is fuck them right away? Well, that causes me to act like a creep and call them and leaves messages. Rule number 1. Don't leave them more than 1 message. If you send two messages and you don't get any back, don't send another one until they do. If they never do than go with another approach. Just because they don't message does not mean you don't have a chance with them yet.

I thought I had to rely on my looks and charms to get the girls that I want and cross my fingers that they'll sleep with me. Sometimes it worked but most of the time it failed. It wasn't until I found the book called Game by Neil Strauss while back. I was in heaven! There is an actual psychology behind woman's emotions and Guys like Neil and the amazing Mystery figured them out! Now I have become a hungry man who have starved over 20 some years and have finally found food! I am reading everything and doing everything I can do understand the female psyche so that I have more than couple of options and that I can be the 'Alpha Male' when I go out with friends and do more than just having couple of boring conversations with girls. Yes 4o years olf females can be called girls also.

So follow me through my journey or learning and discovering the whole new world of getting the girl that you want and ultimately getting the sex that we all deserve. Let's go.

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