Falling in Love

Falling in Love. No I'm not in love but wouldn't this eventually happen after meeting and dating so many great women? Once you start the habit of understanding women's psychology, knowing how to talk to them and collecting numbers, beautiful girls will evolve around you. Other girls can even sense that from you too?

Some girls are so damn attractive that it still becomes difficult to talk without having to be so nervous. They never stop testing you. I love to hang out and talk about love and relationships with my good friend Breezy. She's exotic (half white and half asian), a massage therapist, an entrepreneur and an exotic dancer who recently was in Hollywood shooting for playboy. We go out together sometimes and believe me, having a girl like her makes other girls open up easily and their defense goes down instantly. This makes it easier to get to know a girl, not that I have a problem without her but still, it's different and fun.

I feel lucky. I go to her anytime I feel stressed and she will give me a professional massage even if it's midnight on a weekday! I learn alot from her experiences with men. She has dated many rich guys, no she's not a gold digger, because of her status. She recently told me about this one millionaire who bought her a volvo car because he was so into her. He eventually became a stalker and freaked her out. Yes, money alone cannot help you get the girl to fall in love with you.

This week was fun. I went on a lunch date with my 10 (Mel), 3 dates with 3 different beautiful girls, 1 booty call, and a 2 birthday parties. One of the girl is 18 years old and the other was 19. I know, pretty damn young but they are so damn pretty. One was a blond with big boobs and the other was a brunette, taller, thinner and with bigger boobs. Going on a date with a 18 year old is no different than going with a 29 year old. It's just that the older the girl is, the less games she will play.

Third one was Cha, the one that I like. I got to meet Cha's parents since I went her mom's birthday party this week. I don't write the girl's full name, just the first 3 letters. Her parents were so damn cool and fun. They loved me. The father was a entrepreneur and a millionaire and we talked business most of the time. This topic fascinates me since I too am a entrepreneur. I have two small business running and have two more being built as we speak. It's easy to start having emotions with your date when you get along so well with their parents. This emotion is common. I'm sure you experienced it too.

I also got a phone number of a cute short haired brunette at my gym. She kinda resembles Angelina Jolie without that sex appeal and skinnier. I see her at my gym so I'm not going to push this one. I'm going to take this for a long slow ride. I don't want to make going to the gym awkward for anybody. I simply went up to her and said 'I just wanted to meet you since I keep seeing you around. What's your name?". They just want to be talked to. Girls are more frustrated with guys looking as if they're interested, staring all the time and not saying hi. She works as a graphic designer at a candle company so I asked her to hook me up with a candle with a smell that sets a relaxing mood since I'm so busy and need something to relax sometimes. She said she'll hook it up. After I got dressed, I walked straight to her while she was in the treadmill and with everyone looking and asked for her phone number sp we can coordinate our candle exchange. She complimented my iPhone and gave me her number.

I called her later in the week and left a message saying to call me 'because i have something quick that i needed to ask her'. She never called back and later in the week she told me at the gym that it was essential that I leave my phone number next time so she can call back. Duh! I told her I my friends were performing in a band and that I wanted her to come kick it with us. She said she'll be down whenever there is a next time.

One of my business is that I'm a photographer for wedding, portraits, models and most recently bands. I made friends with a local rock producer here in san diego and he's got 20 some bands under him. He loves my work and uses me to photograph most of his bands. Being a photographer has it's perks. Especially with the ladies since so many girls ask me to take sexy photos of them.

I find out that one girl I took out couple weeks ago is in porn and the stripper girl I got the phone number from is also another porn actress. I was so shocked. 2 girls I picked up were in porn! I kissed close one but didn't bother to follow up on a date because I just didn't feel like it. Now I feel like it:) It was a same porn company so I was able to see them both while I was surfing that site. No, I don't pay for a porn membership. I'm too cheap for that. I have a friend who works at that company so he gave me a free membership:) It is such a turn on to find that out. I am going to take the one of them out again. I found out through myspace that the other one is married with a kid so I'll stay away from that. Yes, I am picky:) You can too when you have the options.

My friends would always say that the reason that they don't talk to all kinds of girls at bars and parties is that they're picky. I always tell them that how can you be picky when you don't have the options to be picky from. It's a self defense mechanism from being rejected. Have a handful of girls that you date and then you can be picky.

Saturday night, I drop the 19 year old off from a dinner date and go to a birthday party to meet with my friends. I'm thinking maybe later I will take her out again since she loved hanging out with me but this next couple of weeks is going to be busy since I have vegas and Costa Rica for a business trip. Hotels and plane tickets all paid for. Fuck, I can't wait to go there and sarge my ass off.

My two friends got alot to offer but just don't talk to girls. They want to, they even know 'the game' but still don't have the guts to go say hi. They even used to be on top of their games when they were younger but now at the age of 30, they have become insecure a bit. I try to push them but they just stand there and make excuses. I'll keep pushing. That's what friends are for.

So I walk up to this two girls and simply ask them to come over to have a conversation with us. They were more than happy to come and say hi.

Bottom line, especially at parties, we are all there to meet people. Most guys just stand around expecting something to happen. You don't even have to have an opener at parties. Guards are usually down since it's at someone's home and everybody is usually a friend or a friend of a friend.

My friend asks the girls if they wanted a drink and he took off to get them. I tell the girls that I don't get girls drinks and that I get the girls to go get me drinks. I say this in a cocky funny way. They both attack me in a flirty pissed way. I then tell the cuter one that she wouldn't be able to handle a guy like me. Oh, she loved that challenge.

We all love the challenge. So quit being so damn pussy whooped and give them what they want, a challenge. You are the prize. Understand why you have such high values and you need to qualify women to get your attention. Don't tell her about your accomplishments and status trying to prove to them. Share it to them later but until then have them qualify to you why they are good enough to be with you. Have a strong identity and belief. During conversation, if you disagree than disagree with confidence. Don't agree to them just to try to make them feel like you are in the same page. I know all this because I was in that chump shoe. I know exactly what most chumps do and the reason why it's so hard to get the girl that you want. It's good to have scripted lines but it's also great to have a strong frame. Scripted lines help alot but don't try to rely them for the whole conversation or you'll be stuck. Have a strong frame, meaning that it's what you make of it. Small example would be that if you tell a group of people that the party is getting boring and you say it with such believe than they all start to think that. Same concept when meeting girls. When you go talk to a girl with a frame that she is the one that's trying to get in your pants and not the other way around and you show that with a strong body language and tone, she will believe that it is true. 'Framing' is the most powerful psychological tool in my opinion.

After throwing that challenge, the blond was on me all night. She would even throw glances at me when talking to other guys. I threw a middle finger at her when she looked. I thought it was flirty. She's one of the girl that lived in the house where the party was held. Later when I told her I was leaving, she throws me a soft punch on my shoulder and gives me a hug bye. She's cute but I'm seeing people who are hotter and I don't want anymore in my plate right now so I didn't bother with the number. I'll be seeing her around since we roll out with her new roommate from time to time.

Another blond girl keeps looking across the way. I overhear them getting ready to leave. I walk up to the 3 girls and start a conversation. One of the girl was really fat and unattractive but I treated her exactly the same way with the other two cutie. Let them understand that you aren't attracted to the cute one just yet. I cut it short and talk a bit more to the cute one and leave them. I talk and just walk away many times just to make sure that I don't have the fear of rejection and have the habit to socialize.

I've got a date with the 18 year old again this week and I'm off to Las Vegas friday afternoon til sunday evening. I have never been there. I am going to talk to every cute girl there and throw all the games that I have. I can't wait. I'm also going with a crazy group who loves to party and get down. One couple loves to fuck in front of us and that's an entertainment on it's own. I'll keep you guys posted.

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Overwhelming

I am overwhelmed with the amount of girls that I know and talk to and yet still haven't hooked up with most of them. It's too much to even remember who to call. I have to slow this down a bit or come up with a method that'll allow me to hook up with them faster. I'm going to have to start that this week.

Friday night I got invited to hang with at a private concert party with a group of friends. I went to dinner with Cha and then went to the concert with the group right after. All the girls got drunk and I was molested by all the girls through out the night. Ass being groped, holding me, dancing with me, i was a piece of meat to them and I liked it. Later that night Bon showed up, the HB I took out last week and it was a bit weird. They all knew I went out with her and Cha on dates and it felt good that I was a prize like that. Jealousy is a strong way to create attractions. I'm thinking I need to quit talking to Bon so I don't create too much drama within the group. Haha, who am I kidding, I love drama. I'm going to ask Bon for a second date. We'll see.

Bon and her friend leaves and the rest of us head to a different venue. Cha gets too drunk and vomits everywhere in which I clean up and had her sleep on my lap for an hour as the rest of the crew is just chilling. It's okay. I like Cha so I don't mind being a gentlemen and just taking care of her for the rest of the night. She thanked me for that the next day and told me she'll never forget what I've done for her.

Saturday night, I head out to local bar to meet up with some of my friends girl friends. Damn, out of 5 girls only one was cute so I talked to her and she gets really into the conversation. My friend's gf tells me she's married so I try to ignore her for the rest of the night. I don't mind fucking around with a girl that has a boyfriend but a husband is a no go for me. I have to draw the line somewhere and I find marriages to be very sacred. My friend's gf tells me later that her friend said this about me 'I'm not into Asian guys but dammmnn'. Too bad I didn't think she was cute.

My friend and I leave the girls and head to a house party. It was a Mexican singles party but luckily i see a white girl out of group. Don't get me wrong, I love latinas but to try to hook up with the hot one in front of all the big ex gang mexican dudes, there was no way I was going to fuck that up. The white girl was tall with reddish brown hair and has big breasts. Very attractive. I say hi to her and tell her I just want to know her name. I tell her that it's nice to see someone else who's not Mexican and that we should be a team. I then tell her to have fun and just walk away.

I so this alot when I go out and I think it works well for me. As soon as I see a cute girl I approach them and just say hi and that I wanted to know their name and later come back to get into deeper conversation. My theory is that she has me in the back of her mind and she'll get curious since my approach is very confident then when I come back later, she'll be more open to want to get to know me.

Later, I see her sitting down next to a guy but they're not really talking so I approach her and tell her that I want to take her to a different area to have a good conversation. She comply and follow me out. A guy cock blocks and keeps talking to us stopping me from talking to the girl (Ann). I glimpse at Ann for help since the guy kept talking to me most. I think he's bisexual and is actually hitting on me. As soon as another guy says what's up to him, I grab Ann and walk away arm in arm. I tell her she failed at helping me out.

So I am leaning back on a pole talking to Ann. I ask her personal questions and even throw in the psychological routine. The guy comes back and he's talking to her like crazy over me. He must've bene upset I walked away and is now trying to take her away from me. She tells the guy that she'll talk to him later after she talks to me so he walks away. Haha. That shit was so awesome to see and I am just leaning back on the wall the whole time like I don't give a fuck. I look into her eyes as much as I could but those breasts were so nice and cleavage so damn exposed it was a bit difficult. She tells me she's only 19 years old. I tell her she's too young for me. I get her number anyways and tell her I'll call her from time to time and see how her life's going. No 19 is not too young for me.

Sunday comes around and I am photographing a hot ass blond girl. This allows me to learn how to hang out with a 10 all day and not be fazed by her beauty. I tease her, call her a dork and show interest only for what she does and has accomplished. She gets comfortable being in her underwear in front of me and I don't show that much interest. We have plans for dinner for a later time.

So I have a date with my 10, Mel, tomorrow. I'm planning on taking her to dinner and than to a fancy place for dessert and wine. This girl is on the top of my list so it's fucked my mind up. I don't want to mess this up. She is half chamorro (guamanian native) however I have to pull the trigger and that's my plan for tomorrow. At least a kiss before she gets way to comfortable with me and just want to be friends. After that I'm sure it'll get alot more comfortable for me. I'll keep you posted.

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Improving on Dating.

Improving on Dating.

So I had a date Friday night with a HB (Hot blonde). We got some dinner and made a mistake taking her to a club/bar. For some weird reason, taking a date to a club just doesn't work. The environment is so different that I couldn't even talk to her and the same from her as well. So we quickly drank our drink and took off to my place. We had a glass of wine and I kissed her a bit. I didn't go any further because she left a tampon wrapper in my bathroom trash can. I called her on it and I thought it was funny. I asked her if she wanted to kiss me. She said maybe. I said lets find out and I went for it. She left after hanging out a bit longer.

Saturday night was a total failure. I went out with my homies. My friend was suppose to meet a girl he was checking out but she text him last minute while we were at the club and said that she wasn't going to make it. I had the mentality of being my boys wingman so it threw me off a bit when they decided not to show. I just didn't have the want and the energy to do anything else. However, there was this hot ass 10 that came into the club. Forget about it. This girl was a damn 11 and taller. She even walked around with that snobby look. I love a challenge. I went up to her and started talking to her. She had this snobby reaction and I made it seem like I was going to walk away and the good thing was that she would start a conversation when I stopped stopped talking. For some weird reason I just didn't like her and not interest and just walked away. She was phenomenally hot but I got bored. I just didn't feel like it. I did this two more times to other girls and with all of them I just walked away without even saying bye and in the middle of a conversation. I just got bored. We went and got some burritos and went home. Oh well. With attractive girls it's just so much damn game that if you fuck up once than recovering can be a bitch. I'm exhausted. I have 2 jobs and run 2 small business on the side. I'm also trying to balance out my single life on top of that.

Sunday night I went out with a girl that I picked up last week. I got her number within 3 minutes and set up a date for Sunday night. She really wasn't my type but I loved her personality. She was older, my age, and she was a total nerd like how I am. We both collected comic books in the past, enjoyed comic con and played video games. I took her to dinner, took her to my place and than asked her if she wanted to kiss me. She said yes. So we made out and I progressed further. Every time I went a step further she would say no so I would say, 'yeah that's bad' and step back a bit, continue what i was doing and move forward anyways. This went on all the way until we finally fucked. She left after. Weird how I just saw this as a practice. Sex was definitely fun and enjoyable especially there wasn't too much game that I had to play. I'm almost numb now. The girls I actually do like plays it so damn hard to get that I just get fuckin tired and bored of going all the way through. I think I need a little vacation or maybe, I need to keep the 6's for fast fuck and the 10's as gaming work.

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Confidence in Body Language

Building confident body language to pick up the girls.

I realize that after learning and applying myself out in the field, ultimately, showing that you're confidence can take you further than anything else. Don't get me wrong, I do believe in properly sequencing emotions to get the girl but it's becoming bad to sticking to a script all the way through. Especially with PUA becoming so mainstream, we have to be careful not to say to a girl what she's seen on TV.

This week has been probably the best week. I went back to the strip joint and got the bartender's phone number. Looked her up in myspace and she is married with a kid. I think I should stay away from her.

Friday night, big group of us head to Stingeree. The blond girl 'Cha'I'm interested in was there with the group so I entertained her for a while. One of our female friends brings in a short blond 'Bon'and all the guys start talking about how cute she is. No one was doing anything about it so I stepped in. Obviously, since she was part of the group there was no need for any openers. I just said hi and chatted a bit. I tell her to come over and meet the rest of the crew so I threw her to the guys and I lean back.

After saying hi to everyone, she goes to her girlfriend. Couple minutes later, I see her looking at me from a distance. I wave her to come over while I stand there like a rock star all leaning back. She comes over and we talk. She's all over me, touching me and really getting into our conversation. She wanted to find her friend so I tell her I'm going to help and take her hand and lead her to the second floor. I take her to a quiet place and continue our conversation, away from everybody and away from the girl that I like.

I'm playing with fire here. This short blond is close friend who is also a close friend to the girl I like. The problem is that the girl I like is almost non sexual and she's more of a girlfriend material, super easy going, cool as hell, drama free and has her head straight. Fuck it.

Just then the shorty 10 'Mel', that I am attracted to appears out of no where with her friends and surprises me. She text and tried to call me to say hi while she saw me at the club but I didn't hear my cell. Yes! I must've looked so good talking to a cute blond who was all over me while my 10 was watching. I say hi and let the 10 go.

I take the blond back to the group and take some of the guys to walk around. I open up a 3 set and tell the black girl 'I would like to be honest with you. I'm not normally attracted to black women but you are very beautiful'. She was. Light skin, hazel brown eyes and very sweet. You would think that I would get slapped for saying something like that but it's always how you say it and not what you really say. She response by saying she was thinking the same about me since I was Asian. My two boys talk to the other two girls and they instantly hit it off. I get her phone number and urge my friend to get his girl's number which he did. We switched talking to each other's girl and the new girl I was talking to was all over me trying to dance with me. Since my friend already got her number, I behaved accordingly. My friends were impressed on how easy I do it. It's all about that confidence and the sex appeal.

I go back to my group and back to Cha. Her little friend asks me real loud in front of Cha where my new friend is and that she saw us holding hands and walking away. I ignore her comment and whisper to Cha "I'm very concerned that you are on my mind more than I want it to be." She started showing me more interest by dancing with me more.

When you want to tell a girl that you like her, do not ever tell her straight out that you like her. Always uses clever lines like I just used to show that you are still higher in value. Once you let the girl know that you really like her than it's game over for your ass. Straight compliments only work if she already likes you alot or after you guys have fucked. They have the upper hand at that point. I don't even like it when a girl tells me that straight out.

I called the short blond two days later and set up a date for Friday.

I also have have another date Sunday from another girl I got a number from. Saturday night we went out in Encinitas and a brunette girl was waiting outside by herself for a friend. I say hi and talk to her and find out that she's a black belt in Kenpo. I'm a martial artist and have been all my life so this one caught my attention. She showed me her badass tattoo of a dragon on her right side of her body and a tiger on the other. Hot. I ask for her number telling her that we need to continue this discussion at a later time. She had this pleasant surprise about me asking for the number which made me feel good. We'll see how this goes Sunday. Sex can be rough I can imagine.

I don't believe in waiting to call back. I call back the next day while the memory is still fresh. You can show them you're still badass without having to wait so many days. My biggest worry now is do I try and hook up with the short blond Bon knowing it might leak to Cha. Shit. Sometimes single life can be dramatic as well.

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