Falling in LOVE

I finally found one girl that I can see myself getting into a serious relationship with. This is one girl that I can't play my games with because I lose control and act like a mister nice guy.

First off, I am naturally a nice guy. Like most guys, I instinctively do the wrong thing such as buying them small gifts and do things for them more than they do things for us.

I have heard many guys, including myself in the past, say that we give so much but hardly get anything in return. We naturally want to buy them things, agree with them in many conversations just to be in her good side and basically putting them on a pedestal.

Women don't care too much about being smothered. There is a time and place for that and the timing is very important. For some reason, us guys think that it's a great way to impress her and win her heart. Who or what made us men so bad at understanding women and not giving them what they really want. It's not being treated like a princess.

FYI: This rule doesn't apply after sex. After a sexual relationship is established than it becomes a all new ball game. Smothering and pampering helps with the relationship but at an unexpected time.

I like to summarize it in one sentence. Women needs their emotions to be pleased! Some women don't think it but it's true. They want excitement in their relationships not just a boring, easy, controllable boyfriend. They need to feel jealous, love, teased, pampered, secured, taken care of, most emotions you can find in the dictionary. Reason why, as sad as it may sound, is that most beautiful girls are with bad boys who seems to treat them like shit because most other guys kiss ass and is too damn nice and predictable. Being nice all the time never works so get that out of your head. Sometimes when the girl is less attractive than your level of attractiveness, let's say she's a 6 and you might consider yourself an 8, being nice can work because she wants you for your looks.

Crazy, I know.

Anyways, back to my main story. So I like this girl in a deeper level. I have talked to her for 7 months, on and off, slowest progression I have ever experienced. It's so different from all other girls I've met. It's almost like she's the pick up artist. She's so fucking cool. She knows how to play hard to get and yet still give me this small response to get me to come back. I can tell she really likes but but still keeps me on the edge. If I don't reply in couple of weeks, she'll leave a small myspace comment that gets me back. She can easily find dates and all kinds of guys goes after her. At clubs for eample, if I leave her alone for a minute, some dude is on her instantly. You get the idea.

Lets just say I haven't found anything I didn't like about her. I'm very picky. How is that possible?

Let me tell you what happened just last two nights.

It's friday night and I'm off to meet her (I'm going to call her Cha, which I have also written about her in earlier blog entries) and other friends at the Prospect Club in La Jolla, California. The girl who is promoting asked me to come and join them at their table so how can I turn down free entry, free drinks and beautiful people. The club is amazing. Most of the people were attractive and well dressed. I surprise Cha and friends by meeting them there without telling them. Cha tells me she's happy that I'm there.

There is another girl there that is within the circle of friends named Bon. She's an acquaintance with Cha but had slept with her ex couple of weeks ago so they are in this unfriendly battle. I happen top be friends with both of them and both of them happen to like me as well. How the hell did I get myself in the middle like this? However, I really have feelings for Cha but have just a friendly feelings for Bon.

Bon gets all over me, tries to kiss me and hug me and basically cling onto me. I don't want to participate int hat activity. I know Bon has become very aggressive since Cha was there and knew what was up.

Girls can be so damn competitive with each other. That's a hard fact. I'm sorry to say but I used that to my advantage. When Cha saw me talking to Bon, she became sour and when Bon saw me talking to Cha, Bon became more aggressive. It was so entertaining to experience this.

Thanks to our promoter friend, all of us got pretty drunk. I got a chance to kiss Cha and man it was sweet.

This continued on to the next night when I went out with Cha and couple of other friends to downtown. We headed to Stingeree kinda late and the line was super long. Just as we were about to leave, Bon and her group of girl friends shows up and they had us on the list to get in but still had problems letting the guys in. Just then our other acquaintance, who happen to have a VIP table walks by and tells me and my other homie to come inside with him. Let me tell you, that felt pretty damn good to be walking in VIP style in front of all this other people who are stuck at the line.

Competition between Cha and Bon was still pretty fierce and I played it to my advantage. All the guys I was with were pretty impressed to watch couple of hot girls fight for me like that. Cha, however kept it cool, just the way I like it. In the end, I just ditched out to more secluded area in the club with Cha alone and hung out with her most of the time.

It was 2am so we went to my friends house to crash, since I live in LA now and we were partying in San Diego, but my other groups of friends were in the house just chilling. We decided to get adventurous and headed out to look for an after party. Some random promoter on the street gave us this dinky flyer and told us to check it out. The location was pretty suspicious and they were serving alcohol til 8 in the morning. It was a rave so we got high, danced til 7am and went home with Cha and had the best massage and conversation I've had in many years with a woman.

I didn't want to crowd this story with the details but it was an amazing weekend. With friends like this and a place like San Diego, single life can be so damn addictive and great. You just have to play your cards right. I have til August to party it up before heading to Guam, my home town. I better make the best of it.

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Saddle Ranch PUA experience

I finally got a chance to go to the infamous Saddle Ranch in Los Angeles to see what the hype was all about. This is the place where Mystery and other pick up artist do their live seminars at. My friend and I went in and noticed that there were no dance floors and there is a mechanical bull in the middle of the bar. It was a Thursday night so I guess it meant that it wasn't too busy. I was keeping my eyes out for peacocking guys that were pick up artists but didn't find any that stood out.

I get a phone call from a female friend of mine for a booty call but I tell her I'm already out with my friend and tell her I thought she was so sweet to call me this late for some nastiness.

We looked around and decided to drink just one beer for the night. I wasn't really in the mood to get all crazy tonight but I noticed 2 cute hispanic girls sitting by the bar. I also noticed 2 cute white girls by the bar as well and noticed them checking us out so we decided that we shouldn't approach them first. We should have them see us talking to other people before we approach them so that they won't think we're after their jewels:)

I went over the the cute Hispanic girls and asked them where I can find a better bar to go to since the Saddle Ranch was so dead.

Always remember to approach with confidence and talk slow but firmly.

The Mystery openers are kinda rough to go with since it's so damn main stream and so many girls have watched the pick up artist show on VH1. I already had a handful of girls ask me if I got my approaches from that show which usually ends up me just walking away from the conversation since their guard goes up so damn high. Don't get me wrong, Mystery's stuff is still top notch.

Anyways, the cute one of the left gave me the stink eye and a cold shoulder. I was still in control since I came in with a cool body language that shows that I'm not really interested and I personally don't get intimidated that easily.

I said: Do you sense something bad from me? I'm really not trying to get your number or take you home with me. I really want to know a cool place to hang besides this place.
Cute girl replys: I'm just cautious of player kinda guys.

I loved it. I love it when girls tells me I'm a player just from meeting me for the first time. Doesn't most girl want a player than a shy, boring guy? What a compliment.

I tell her: You're lucky then because I'm not interested.

It was on since then. I get my homie into the conversations and we all have great time. We're all laughing and joking and teasing. I never give her a straight answer. She asks me what nationality I am and I tell her I'm Puerto Rican (I'm Korean). She teases me and I tease her back. I tell her I hate her since she's so mean and that we can never date because she'll just make me cry. She tells me she wants to marry me though.

She asks what kind of bar we want to go to and I said somewhere with a dance floor. She challenges me to see if I knew how to dance and stands up next to me. I grab her and give her a little salsa move and she was impressed and possibly tuned on.

My homie was next to her so they start a comfort building conversation and so do I with the cute ones friend. The friend was cute but not as cute:) I'd say a 6 and the other one was an 8 but made her a 9 since she was so fun to talk to. The friend and I exchange names and talk about simple stuff. My homie gets the cuties number and she says that we all need to go out tomorrow together.

I over hear my homie telling the cutie my name so I jump in and tell him not tell her. She asks me why. I say 'because I don't like you'. She does a motion of her heart breaking and I take it, throw it on the floor and stomp on it. She's shocked. I than pretend to pick up the heart and tell her I want to put it back inside her. She teases me by thrusting her chest at me all sexually. I pull away and tell her I don't think so.

Even though my homie got the number it is understood between us that whoever opens the set has the choice. I love it when my homie gets the number cause it makes me harder to get and the girl knows I can still be reached but far enough that it's still a challenge.

We had to go since the our parking meter was only for an hour. The cutie asks me if I really hate her. I think she was serious so I lean close to her ear and say yes I really hate you and pull away. I then quickly pull up real close to her with her knees on my groin and my arms around her and whisper to her ear what my real name is. She tells me what her name is and tells me she wants to see me tomorrow night. We just stared into each others eyes with that nonverbal, sexual communication. I have built so much sexual tension between us with all the teasing and hating that we could've made out right there but since I really had to go, I give her a kiss on both of the cheeks and leave.

Leaving her with a sense of Mystery is big. We all love the challenge and the mystery of 'what will happen in the future' perspective. Anyways, I had a great time just talking to the two girls. We laughed, joked, teased and got a little physical. Just having a great conversation with the world is amazing to me and so damn fun. The key is to learn what Mystery and David Deangelo has to teach you and make it your own. Try not to copy them for word for word. Understand the concept of being a man and having that confidence and you being the prize is what it takes to meet great and wonderful ladies.

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